The loss of a loved one is a heartbreaking and devastating thing. It’s unimaginable to lose someone you love, someone important to you, and someone who has always been a part of your life.
Grief is the natural emotional response to loss, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel this immense sadness. Some individuals may cope well; being able to continue with their daily lives, while others find it incredibly hard to handle.
Grief is an emotional suffering considered to be a personal experience, and no other person will feel this emotion exactly the same with another.
Most people believe that grief and depression after the loss of a loved one are one and the same. In actuality, they’re not – but the list of emotions can overlap with one another.
Distinguishing Grief and Depression and dealing with bereavement.
Psychotherapist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross defined the famous “5 Stages of Grief,” which are:
1. Denial: “This is not happening.”
2. Anger: “Why is this happening?!”
3. Bargaining: “I’ll never curse again in my life, please, let this be untrue.”
4. Depression: “I feel an immense feeling of sadness.”
5. Acceptance: “He/she is really gone.”
Not everyone, though, will go through these 5 stages. Some might undergo all of them in this order, while some may skip one stage or move from one stage or another, and then go back to the first stage. Some individuals may also experience depression, while others won’t.
Grief occurs naturally. Common symptoms include: shock and numbness, exhaustion, anger, and guilt. Depression, on the other hand, consists of severe emotions that last for longer periods of time.
If you experience any or all of the following symptoms, then you may be depressed from the loss of a loved one:
>feelings of hopelessness or anger
>withdrawal from friends, family, and usual activities
>prolonged feelings of sadness
>thoughts of suicide
>not being able to get out of bed to work or take care of yourself or your family
>displacing feelings of anger over someone else
>not being able to get back to work after about one month
>not being able to perform simple daily tasks
When your symptoms cause you to lose your job, neglect your kids (if you have any), and neglect your health, then you may be suffering from depression due to the death of a loved one.
How to Deal with this Depression
1. Understand that Everyone Grieves Differently
You may start asking yourself why your sister or brother are coping well with the loss of a parent, while you are completely heartbroken. You may begin to question if there is something wrong with you or if you need to get yourself together right away.
You have to understand that not everyone deals with loss the same way, as coping styles, personality, experiences, and the nature of the loss are all factors to the severity of your emotions.
2. Talk to Someone or Seek Help
Talk to friends and family and do not isolate yourself. Spending time alone may be all that you want to do but you need to express to the people in your life how you feel.
There are also bereavement support groups that you can join, which consist of communities of counsellors and other individuals who may be going through loss themselves, as well.
If you believe your thoughts and feelings have become extremely unbearable, seeking the help of a mental health professional is a good idea.
3. Take Care of Yourself
You also have to take care of yourself by eating well, sleeping right, and taking care of your physical appearance. You can express your feelings in tangible ways such as writing them down or making music, learning a new skill, or playing a sport.
Holidays and special occasions are big triggers of sadness as they reawaken memories and feelings. You can ask family members to skip a birthday celebration if you think you won’t be able to cope; or you can talk to family and friends about starting a new tradition.
Grief is a natural emotion but depression is not. When your emotions have become unbearable, you don’t have to be alone to battle your demons by yourself. Local bereavement services are in easy reach, as well as support groups and counsellors in your local hospice. The national Cruse hotline is also a simple way to talk to someone who understands.
The loss of a loved one doesn’t mean it’s the loss of your own life, too. Get help, take care of yourself, and deal with the grief in the best way that you can.
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